I haven’t written a blog for a sometime now and
I always put it down to how I am still so comfortable with writing on paper
than publishing anything online.
We are towards the end August but still I am
still getting over all the events of July 2022, I had the greatest of surprises
for my birthday month, I have been back in my hometown for close to month but
still remember how Akin made it possible that we meet up and spend the month of
July in Cape Town.
If before this birthday I ever said I had the
best of birthdays, I lied, this past birthday must go down in my history book
as the very best of birthdays ever!
Not only did I get to spend the day with the
man I love but he went on to make that day extra special I got gifts from him all
through the day, it was one thing after another and even a special gift from
him that keeps on giving, so unexpected but most welcome.
We are approaching the end of August, but I am
still stuck and re-living those moments, my mind replaying those events and to this
day I fail to find the right words to describe the entire experience. I have
never known to be given such attention, such amazing care, and he has the gift
of knowing just how to plan and ensure all works for the best.
No Network reconnecting, No Buffering.
A long-distance relationship is always one of
the hardest to maintain and the fact that after all this time we still standing
is a great testament that in any relationship communication is key and for most
of the time Akin and I depend on internet connections to work for our conversations
and communications to be understood, we do try to maintain such.
In my home country it still remains difficult
for a reliable connection, so It is always enormously special and most rewarding
to be in the presence of Akin, without any buffering or network reconnections, spending
time with Akin in the flesh is something I will always treasure, and I do
believe one day we will find our way through such challenges, there is something
enchanted about being next to the one you love without any hinderances, I hope
those who can be together understand this, but then comes a sort of pain in knowing
that this time together is only on borrowed time.
As much as people need to be alone, having that
time together is most dear.
As much as we should enjoy every moment, at the
back of the mind it plays on you that this is only temporary.
Learning to know more.
Many things were different, our first stay was
in Camps Bay, quiet a distance from the city centre this time, I did like it
but hearing of all the break-ins and home invasions didn’t help much, I know
Akin on many nights didn’t sleep well and that was a great concern for me. As much as nothing happened to us, it proved
to be quite a challenge as walking around the area was bit of a strain as the
Camps Bay area is very hilly, I got used to it as I walked the area a lot and I
took it as my daily work-out routine.
As the days passed by, we settled in and made
the space work best for us. Akin fell a little ill, I thought it was just his
move from the Northern hemisphere to this Southern part of the world, I did my
best to make sure his recovered and was comfortable.
Over time we have become very fond of Cape Town
with the great planning skills of Akin we have by now done much of what Cape Town
has to offer, between the both of us Akin is better at planning thing and
making sure such plans work out accordingly, in comparison, he is the most
organised, and I am not acting out on been biased.
As time would have it, Akin took some time out to
continue his study and development for the passion he has in his field of work,
I took the chance to take a leaf off that and as well continued to study on a
course of interest, Project Management.
As he booked an office space for his study, back
home I tried to figure out what I’d do with my life as my pervious employment
had just come to an end. I did spend many days reviewing my C.V and exploring
what other kind of opportunities could be around for to me to explore.
I am not much of a social person, so I hardly
ever explored those occasions to connect with other like mined souls, I guess I
had my head filled with uncertainties that I lost focus, many times I tried to
think of things to do, but its either we had done it before or Akin was not inclined
or just too tired and not interested in the events ever presented. Even so, I
know he had much on his mind as well.
There is so much I could talk about, but in all
I am glad to have had time in person with the man that has changed my life for
the better and I believe I got to understand a little more, for anyone in a
relationship, remember he needs his space.
I am grateful for the sacrifices that Akin undertakes
to make sure we get this time together; he travels thousands of kilometres just
to be in the same space with me and for that alone I am humbled and much appreciative
of.
I believe in time things do get better and better
stories will be written.
